Tom Callanan

Tom Callanan

Tom Callanan

I offer talk-based and hands-on coaching for heterosexual men, women and couples. I specialize in working with those new to sex and relationship coaching, those struggling with sexual shame and shutdown, and those recovering from sexual wounding, abuse, and trauma.
(269) 760-0362
Santa Cruz, California "USA"
tccallanan@gmail.com
  • Do you feel sexually blocked or shut down?
  • Do you sometimes get stuck in your head, disappear or go numb during sex?
  •  Do you often find it hard to orgasm or struggle with erectile issues?
  •  Is knowing what you want and asking for it a struggle?
  • Do you want to be desired yet struggle with feeling desirable?
  • Do you find yourself consistently attracting partners who aren’t good for you

If you answered yes to one or a number of the above questions, it’s possible that you’re suffering from sexual trauma, even if you don’t identify as a trauma survivor. Sexual trauma is not just about sexual violation, it’s also about disconnection from your body and the core of who you are. This disconnection, especially for women, is endemic to Western culture. Because it’s so prevalent, it can often be hard to recognize, and yet it can be profoundly disempowering and destructive. We all carry wounds around our sexuality.

The good news is that it’s possible to recognize and treat these wounds. With tenderness, care, compassion and skillful means, you can learn to come back into your body and reclaim your full sexual power, even after long dry spells and trauma. Because your sexuality is at the core of who you, when you clear sexual blockages other areas of your life follow suit: you become more at home in your body and more confident in who you are; your creative spark and juice return;  you begin to draw good people and things to yourself; life begins to feel easy, abundant and joyful.

How I work: Most people who come to me start with a degree of apprehension. This is completely understandable and natural. As a trauma survivor, I understand the need for emotional safety, solid boundaries and complete trust. Individual sessions look different for everyone. Sometimes we might unravel issues through conversation. Sometimes just a little outside perspective is all that’s needed to open up new avenues of healthy sexuality. Other times I might teach you certain practices or lead you through experiential activities designed to give you new experiences. Sometimes bodywork can be a powerful tool for releasing trauma, opening new pathways to pleasure and unlocking hidden potential. Whatever the form, my practice rests on a foundation of deep listening, presence, respect, and curiosity about who you are and what you need now. My clients often describe me as compassionate, non-judgmental, direct, transparent, sensitive and safe.

Contact: I offer individual sessions and 2-5 day intensives from my home office in Santa Cruz, CA. Pricing is by the session, series or month. I also work via telephone or skype.  For a free 30-minue consult or to schedule an appointment contact   tccallanan@gmail.com or text at 269-760-0362

Tom Callanan, is a state certified Sexological Bodyworker and creator of Somatic Sex and Trauma Therapy (SSTT). His practice is informed by trainings he’s received from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute, Interchange, Somatica, the Human Awareness Institute, the Source School of Tantra, One Taste and the Global Love School at Tamera. A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, Tom leads support groups, workshops and webinars for male survivors. He is founder of a program for men modeled after the Vagina Monologues called “Cocktales: Stories From the Masculine Edge.” He also leads workshops for men, women, and couples called “Full Embodiment: Intimacy, Sensuality, and Sexual Freedom.”